Things to Ask Your Photographer Before Booking (From Someone Who’s Been in Your Shoes)

Trying to figure out who to trust with your memories—whether it’s your wedding, your growing family, or a milestone moment—is no small thing. I’ve been on both sides: a bride hiring a photographer and now, someone who documents these once-in-a-lifetime memories for others. So I wanted to share not just what I’ve learned as a professional, but also what I *wish* I had asked when I was in your position.

Here are the most important things to ask your photographer—along with honest answers from me, just in case you’re considering reaching out.

1. What do you value about photography?

Photography gives me the space to be an artist. I’ve been drawing and painting since I was a kid, studied art in high school and college, and somehow got lucky enough to make creativity my career.

But more than that, I value how this job supports my mental health. I get to witness *the best days* of people’s lives. I get to see dads cry, moms beam, and couples speak vows from the deepest parts of their hearts. Every wedding teaches me something new about love and connection—and it fills me up in a way I can’t quite describe. It’s like Sunday morning breakfast with your favorite people: full, grounding, present.

2. What’s most important to you in the experience you deliver?

Trust.

Weddings aren’t performances—they’re personal, sacred, fast-moving moments. You deserve vendors who center your marriage, not just your Pinterest board. My job is to be a calming, grounded, trustworthy presence. I advocate for you, make space for the moments that matter most, and do the little things—like helping Grandpa up the stairs or syncing with your sister’s pumping schedule—so your day flows naturally.

3. What’s your editing style?

I describe my editing style as documentary-led with warm, true-to-life tones. My approach is less about trendy filters and more about timeless, authentic color. I want your images to feel like you—true to the atmosphere of your day, not overly stylized or distant from reality. That way, when you look back years from now, the photos will still feel like home.


4. How do you approach posing or prompting?

My style is ever-evolving as I grow and experience new opportunities; however, I always gravitate to a posing style that’s hyper-focused on natural, raw, authentic interactions and movement in each love story. I love a good snuggly, candid vibe—the kind of moments where you forget I’m even there—but I also enjoy weaving in more experimental, editorial elements for depth and creativity.

I’ll guide you when needed, but I’m never about stiff poses or forced smiles. I want your photos to reflect you, not a checklist. Think: laid-back direction, space to be yourselves, and a calm presence that lets the magic unfold naturally.

5. How do you choose your second photographer?

Adding a second photographer can be a huge asset—especially when time is tight or when you want another perspective captured (like both of your faces during the first look).

My second photographers aren’t random hires. They’re people I’ve worked with personally, artists I trust, and often friends who run their own photography businesses. They share my values, my creative vision, and my belief that we’re not just vendors—we’re human beings showing up to serve people on a deeply personal day.

If I bring someone on your wedding day, it’s because I trust them like family.

6. What kind of insurance do you carry?

I offer full liability insurance and can provide a COI (Certificate of Insurance) if your venue or planner needs one.

But I also think of “insurance” as everything I do to protect your images. All your photos are shot on dual card slots across three cameras. Files are backed up on multiple external drives *immediately* after your wedding and then stored in a fireproof/waterproof safe.

Why? Because things happen—I’ve had clients lose photos in house fires. I don’t purge galleries because those memories aren’t just yours… they’re mine too. I was there. I remember them. And I want you to always be able to return to them.

7. Who builds the wedding timeline?

If you don’t have a planner, I’ve got you. As soon as you book, I send over a custom timeline template. It’s not rigid—it’s a flexible starting point. From there, we work together to build out a schedule that supports your priorities, fits your vendors, and leaves plenty of breathing room for real life.

I do a full timeline run-through about a month before the wedding, then a quick final check-in the week of. I coordinate directly with your other vendors to make sure we’re all aligned so you don’t have to.

8. What do you need from us to do your job well?

Just a few things:

  • Trust, first and foremost.
  • Your engagement session (included with all wedding collections!) so we can get to know each other, see what makes you comfortable, and build confidence in front of the camera.
  • At least one timeline call to walk through everything and make sure I have the full picture.
  • Open communication—just a quick text or reply when I check in goes a long way.

9. What’s your favorite part of the wedding day?

Honestly, it changes every time. Some days, it’s the first look. Other times, it’s golden hour portraits or the walk down the aisle. But if I had to pick one—it’s open dance. The moment the formalities end and the joy *explodes*. It’s carefree, sweaty, loud, real. Everyone is just *being*. And that, to me, is what this whole thing is about.

If you’re here reading this, maybe you’re in the middle of planning and feeling the pressure. Just know: it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Ask the questions, trust your gut, and don’t settle for anything less than someone who sees your day—and your story—for the full, beautiful thing that it is.

And if that someone might be me? My inbox is open.

Let’s chat. 🤍

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"I have known Nicole for many years now and first and foremost, she is a beautiful person inside and out. Her kindness radiates in every room she is in! When my now husband and I got engaged back in 2023, there was not a doubt or question in my mind who I wanted as our wedding photographer; Nicole Kilday!!!!! Prior to getting engaged, I would be on Instagram and Facebook truly just waiting for new sets of wedding photos from her to be posted on her professional pages. The candidness and realness of her photos were beyond beautiful and awe-filled. I knew that when I looked back on my future wedding photos, I wanted them to be real life moments that I could go back in time and look at through photos, and truly remember exactly how it felt to be in that moment. To make a long point short, Nicole’s art is the epitome of life, love, candidness, and real moments captured. On top of allllll of that, being in Nicole’s presence truly gave me a sense of calm and reassurance. I remember being so unbelievably calm the morning of my wedding, and I truly think I have Nicole to thank for alot of that. Whether you have known her for years or you are meeting her for the first time on your wedding day, I guarantee she will make you feel like you have someone in your corner to guide you and support you in any way possible throughout your wedding planning journey and day. Nicole is truly one of a kind, and I don’t say that lightly. She is passionate about what she does, and it is undoubtedly evident through the beautiful work she creates."

Moira & Colton

"Nicole is the literal BEST there is. She does it all & has the best personality. She’s not only your photographer, she’s also your go to for a last minute grocery store run when you forget something on your big day, the one to find a whole new location for photos when your original is under a severe weather watch, & your hype woman no matter what. Her skills are top tier & there is truly no one like her. If you’re looking for a fun, on the dance floor & also crying with you photographer - she’s your girl. Cannot wait for her to capture more of our life’s memories!"

Samantha & Mitch

"Nicole shot our engagement photos in 2019, our wedding in 2020, my maternity photos in 2021, and our family pictures in 2022. Nicole is amazing in every session and season in life. She’s not only your insanely talented photographer but a therapist, a guide, a treasure in every step of your journey. She’s easy to get a long with, relatable and just a wonderful human in every way. We love her dearly and recommend her to everyone."

Carly & Matt

“We honestly can’t say enough good things about our wedding photographer. Believe it or not it was the first time I met Nicole and it felt like having a close friend around, not just someone there to take pictures. Nicole made being in front of the camera natural and fun. We were laughing, relaxed, and just genuinely happy. Of course our photos most definitely reflect that. Every moment she captured feels real, not staged, and looking back at them brings us right back to how the day felt.

If you’re looking for someone who’s not only talented but also a blast to be around on your big day, this is your person. We’re beyond grateful.”

Dan & Breanne

“Thank you so much for capturing every special moment on our wedding day. The day was so busy that if it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t remember half of it! Beautifully done! I can’t stop looking at them!

And also, my whole family was talking about how great you were! My nana especially haha. You are so much more than a photographer! And anyone who gets the change to work with you will see that and appreciate it so much!”

Taylor & Zach

“Nicole I’m speechless and crying at your photos. They are so perfect. You absolutely nailed it. I have chills! I just wanted to tell you how much we love them and everyone keeps giving me compliments. They are honestly better than I could have imagined Nicole!”

Erin & Justin

“Nicole, I don’t even know where to begin. I am not a cryer, but I am crying at work. These are so beautiful, I can’t thank you enough. We picked the best team on the planet to capture our wedding!!! Again, thank you!!! If ANYONE asks for a recommendation, only your business will come out of my mouth. Even if people don’t ask for it, haha.”

Tori & Cory

“Nicole was amazing!!!! Her and her second photographer were sweet and helpful from start to finish of this process! She eased my nerves and truly had my back. She treated me as a friend instead of just another client and it meant the world!! She went above and beyond by making sure I had enough to eat and drink throughout the day as well! She made sure on our rainy wedding day to have umbrellas (I forgot them) in order to make sure pictures happened as they should! Not sure what I would have done without her! The photos turned out amazing and she took care of every little thing I had concerns about to truly make sure I was happy! If I had to do it again.. I’d book her no doubt! My husband and I both love her.”

Tory & Brett

“Nicole is a dream of a human to work with. She is easy going, intuitive, and truly an artist. I wouldn't have chosen anyone else to capture me and my man the way she did. 11/10 recommend."

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